How to be Happy With Where You Are

Have you known someone who is always happy even when life is throwing a bunch of challenges? I’ve known many and always admire their ability to just be happy all the time.

 

My greatest teachers have all taught me that happiness is an inside job. If you rely on other people or the conditions around you to be happy you will never truly be happy. Every experience you are having in life is result of what you believe and give your attention to. The universe is always reflecting back to you what you believe whether it’s good or bad.

 

Ever notice when you are in a good mood things are always working out for you. The right people show up, you get good sales, things go right at work and the day just gets so good you almost can’t believe it’s real! But, the next day you are focused back on what’s not working in your life and your call to your friend to complain about your life situation only creates more of your problems.

 

The key is to understand that where you are is due to your past beliefs and your attention to them.   To get where you want to be you have to focus on that. 

 

If you want more money in your life, decide to write a new money story. Talk to yourself about how easy money comes into your life, appreciate the money you have in your bank accounts, the money you get paid each week, all the bonus money that comes from coupons, discounts,  contests, free gifts and even the money you money find on the sidewalk.

 

Even if your financial situation is not abundantly flowing, talking about the lack of it will just keep you there.

 

Understand that every day is a new opportunity to change any area of your life from relationships, job and health just by changing your focus.

 

Here is a great example:

I have a client who was laid off from her job and decided she was going to focus on her business but due to the lack of money she just couldn’t get her business up and running. She didn’t want to get a job as she felt it was a sign of failure, but the stress of finances was impacting her health and business. Finally one day she surrendered and accepted a job offer. She didn’t judge herself for taking on this job in fact she was a bit excited to get out of the house 5 days a week and have her mind on other things. This distraction was almost a vacation and she gained more clarity about her business. Her job was getting her in a better financial situation and money started to show up from all sources. She realized that she did herself a disservice by not negotiating for more money when she accepted the position but now that she had started, asking for a raise was not an option.

 

I told her the key was to appreciate the money she was making and focus on what it would feel like if she was making 20% more each paycheck. How would it feel to be able to make larger payments to her credit cards, how would it feel to have extra money to buy more clothes and go out with friends, in just a few days her energy shifted as she gave more attention to prosperity and writing a new money story.

 

Her business started to get more clients,but even better was when she received a call from another company asking if she would be interested in a new position that was double her current salary!

 

Now this wasn’t her plan, she really wanted to get her business thriving, but she knew from past experience that she need to have a better financial cushion. By accepting the new position and more money she recognized that her energy around money had shifted and now this new position could get her more money, pay off her debt faster and help her gain confidence with her business. She is now on her way to achieving her goal.
Her success came when she accepted where she was and stayed focused on what she wanted.  And this is the key to your success, accept where you are and tell a new story with the outcome you desire.

Love and Success,

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What Does Success Mean To You?

What does success mean to you?

 

A powerful question that I don’t believe many people truly know the answer. 

 

Do you?

 

If you can’t really answer this for yourself, then you are probably living life based on other people’s definition.  This can feel like life is nothing more than a hamster wheel!  Life is about taking the right path for you but you need to experience life to figure out what it is you want. ,

 

In the end we all want to say we enjoyed the ride, but so often we are taking on other peoples beliefs of how the journey “should” unfold.

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My lesson today is to help you define what success means to you.

 

When you get clear on this answer, things will begin to change dramatically!

 

So today I want to help you go deeper and get the answer to this question and I want you to share your experience with me.

 

Success is different for everyone and so often people make the mistake of chasing after someone else’s dream. Maybe you feel achieving a certain level of success with your career will define you and that’s all you really desire. Maybe you desire to have it all – the career, sexy body, luxury lifestyle and family.

 

The key step is to define what success means for you and only you! It’s not the what your parents want or society but what you value, what feels right for you and allowing that to happen.

 

Gosh, I can’t tell you how many clients have financially successful careers and are miserable because they chose a career that was influenced by their parents or making the money. This leads to a belief that “money can’t buy happiness” which then leads to another belief,  “I can’t make money doing work I love.”

 

The outcome of these beliefs is an imbalance leaving you feeling frustrated.

What you are looking for is to feel good everyday! Feeling good at work, feeling good doing activities you love, feeling bliss in your relationship, the end goal is to feel good!

 

But what feels good to you?  The key is to experience life to determine your own definition of success.

 

You have to get out there and try new things, screw up and learn what you don’t want to create what you do want.

 

Let’s explore more by responding to some questions below.  Hit reply and answer just 3 simple questions and yes, I’m going to read your responses and respond back with some insights to what you share with me.

 

How cool is that?

 

There is no right or wrong answer just share what you feel.

 

  1. What activities make you feel good? (i.e. traveling the world, cooking fresh meals for my family, teaching, manicures, buying beautiful jewerly)

  2. In your current job, what aspect do you thrive in? (writing, building client relationships, planning events, organizing meetings, etc) 

  3. Based on your answers write out what you feel success means to you.

 

Don’t filter what you write by trying to figure out how this is all going to happen to you right now.

 

Be sure to hit reply with your answers as I’m going to read all of them and give you my insights.

 

I’m eagerly awaiting your responses!

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Do Affirmations Really Work?

In the beginning of my spiritual journey I was finding myself more frustrated about affirmation statements because I expected something to shift immediately!  No one really told me how to slow down and shift my energy first before I can accept the affirmation.  

 

Imagine your boss has just yelled at you for something that wasn’t your fault. You finally get back to your desk and emails are flowing in from your coworkers pointing fingers at each other. Whipping out an affirmation card and saying “I love my job” just isn’t going to work!

 

The reason is your energy is probably at a 2 or 3 vibration and an affirmation is more of an 8 or 10 vibration. You need to be ok with sitting with what happened and move yourself to a place where you can understand the why in the situation. You have to slow down and make incremental shifts.

 

Don’t beat yourself up, simply remind yourself that this situation is reflecting back negative energy.  And now that you can see it, it is a perfect time to clean it up! Especially, if you see a pattern developing.  It is very important that you take the time to reflect and clean it up!

 

Have a soothing conversation with yourself for a few minutes in a neutral place – the bathroom, go for a walk, get some water or a snack. Just take yourself out of the environment for 10-15 minutes and get some self care.

 

In this time try to be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself “what do I want?”  A boss who appreciates my work, coworkers who are easy to get along with, to feel appreciated for my work, or to hear my boss simply say “Thank You?”

 

Now that you’ve focused on what you want to happen, ask yourself what has to change within me to make that happen.

 

As you have these gentle talks with yourself, begin appreciating your gifts, your accomplishments and see yourself being treated better. Don’t expect your boss to give you a big raise, but if you begin to talk to yourself nicer, everyone around you will begin to shift and maybe the rude behavior will disappear.

 

When you’ve shifted your energy begin your affirmation statements like:

 

“I am awesome. I am beautiful. I am loveable. I rock.”

 

“I am always being guided to the exact people and experiences that will further my spiritual path.”

 

The key to affirmations is finding the words that you believe, sometimes it’s tweaking statements to work for you. Don’t be afraid to create your own mantras that empower you.

 

So here’s a little trick to help you with affirmations.

 

Find an image of an affirmation you love, below are some samples.

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Save the image to your phone and set the lock screen to your affirmation.

 

Now every time you open your phone take a few seconds to read the affirmation two times.

 

This will benefit you if you are constantly looking at your phone and will help you slow you down from all the overwhelming feelings from emails, texts, voicemails etc.

 

Do this for a couple of days and notice how your mind begins to shift. Affirmations work when you know how to use them at the right time.

 

So now share your favorite affirmations with me!

 

xo,

Christine Bove

 

P.S. You can have a career you love.  It is possible you just have to be willing to take the adventure to find it. If you are ready for that adventure let’s chat and see how I can help you find a career that’s rewarding and fulfilling. Click here to set your session.

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