Do Affirmations Really Work?

In the beginning of my spiritual journey I was finding myself more frustrated about affirmation statements because I expected something to shift immediately!  No one really told me how to slow down and shift my energy first before I can accept the affirmation.  

 

Imagine your boss has just yelled at you for something that wasn’t your fault. You finally get back to your desk and emails are flowing in from your coworkers pointing fingers at each other. Whipping out an affirmation card and saying “I love my job” just isn’t going to work!

 

The reason is your energy is probably at a 2 or 3 vibration and an affirmation is more of an 8 or 10 vibration. You need to be ok with sitting with what happened and move yourself to a place where you can understand the why in the situation. You have to slow down and make incremental shifts.

 

Don’t beat yourself up, simply remind yourself that this situation is reflecting back negative energy.  And now that you can see it, it is a perfect time to clean it up! Especially, if you see a pattern developing.  It is very important that you take the time to reflect and clean it up!

 

Have a soothing conversation with yourself for a few minutes in a neutral place – the bathroom, go for a walk, get some water or a snack. Just take yourself out of the environment for 10-15 minutes and get some self care.

 

In this time try to be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself “what do I want?”  A boss who appreciates my work, coworkers who are easy to get along with, to feel appreciated for my work, or to hear my boss simply say “Thank You?”

 

Now that you’ve focused on what you want to happen, ask yourself what has to change within me to make that happen.

 

As you have these gentle talks with yourself, begin appreciating your gifts, your accomplishments and see yourself being treated better. Don’t expect your boss to give you a big raise, but if you begin to talk to yourself nicer, everyone around you will begin to shift and maybe the rude behavior will disappear.

 

When you’ve shifted your energy begin your affirmation statements like:

 

“I am awesome. I am beautiful. I am loveable. I rock.”

 

“I am always being guided to the exact people and experiences that will further my spiritual path.”

 

The key to affirmations is finding the words that you believe, sometimes it’s tweaking statements to work for you. Don’t be afraid to create your own mantras that empower you.

 

So here’s a little trick to help you with affirmations.

 

Find an image of an affirmation you love, below are some samples.

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Save the image to your phone and set the lock screen to your affirmation.

 

Now every time you open your phone take a few seconds to read the affirmation two times.

 

This will benefit you if you are constantly looking at your phone and will help you slow you down from all the overwhelming feelings from emails, texts, voicemails etc.

 

Do this for a couple of days and notice how your mind begins to shift. Affirmations work when you know how to use them at the right time.

 

So now share your favorite affirmations with me!

 

xo,

Christine Bove

 

P.S. You can have a career you love.  It is possible you just have to be willing to take the adventure to find it. If you are ready for that adventure let’s chat and see how I can help you find a career that’s rewarding and fulfilling. Click here to set your session.

You are your own worst enemy!

One hard lesson I’ve learned in my life is that I am my own worst enemy.  In fact, we all are. It’s not that we intentionally sabotage ourselves we just don’t realize we’re doing it. But through my life experiences I can look back and see clearly how overthinking my life has cost me in many ways.

 

My career has been a journey of twists and turns looking for a career that would feel rewarding, fulfilling and bring in good money.  I would begin dreaming of the possibilities and it would feel great until the negative voice would creep back inside my head and shatter my dreams. I would get caught up in why it couldn’t happen, my lack of experience, past experiences and a list of reasons why I wasn’t worthy.

 

In the past few weeks I’ve shared my client Melanie’s journey of making over her life and setting herself up to achieve her secret dream job.

 

We shifted her mindset by setting up a new morning routine, discussed how to begin telling a new story about her life and even worked on revamping her wardrobe to set her up for an event that could lead her to this new job.

 

Melanie’s progress has been great and she is improving every day. As we finalized her look for this big event that could help her land her dream job with her dream designer, she started hearing that negative self talk creep in.

 

I explained to Melanie that sometimes you have get out of your own way. In my own life I’ve used this simple mantra when I realized I was trying to control a particular outcome in my life.

 

I would find myself thinking about every circumstance possible and having a solution for every outcome. Big mistake!

 

The key is to visualize what you want clearly and steady with no wobbly energy. Meaning no doubts or buts. The moment you begin to feel like it’s not going to work or your vision starts to get a “no” response, stop. Let it go and think about something else.

 

Visualization works well when you are seeing it unfolding happily! The moment your mind brings up the past results you begin to sabotage!

 

So for Melanie, I told her to visualize the feeling of meeting and engaging with the individuals she hoped to work with.  See the conversation flowing with ease and laughter, but only stay there for a few minutes.

 

Melanie noticed how easy it was to get to that visualization and each time she added little things like a comment on her dress or a comment about how talented she was, little by little Melanie began to feel a new energy shifting inside of her and even noticed the feeling that something better than she expected was going to happen!

 

Looking beautiful and feeling confident Melanie had a amazing time at her event. She set the intention that she would connect with the two people who could best lead her to her dream job. She interacted with tons of great people but she knew the two best people turned out to be an old co-worker and a Marketing Assistant to the Creative Director. While she had a brief interaction with her favorite designer her greatest connection where these two gals.

 

She was able to connect and have a conversation without asking for a job. Through a friendly interaction she was able to learn about them beyond their work and what they loved to do. She saw connections in their activities and recommended some great resources to them.

 

She was building relationships with these ladies, by building these relationships she learned more about the company, the vibe of the staff, and more about the needs of the company. This information was powerful to Melanie as she could begin to see where she could fit into the company and the role that would best suit her and the company.  

 

So Melanie hit a homerun because she did the right work.  She set her mindset from where she is to where she wants to go. While we are still in the process of landing her this position, she is confident it is working out as it should.  

 

So let’s discuss why I wanted to share this story with you and how it can value your life.

 

Life is a journey to figure out what you want. It’s supposed to be fun but it’s not always the way we planned.

 

The contrast that we experience in life is to help us realize what we do want. So when you are on your career journey be appreciative of the jobs and experiences that aren’t so pretty and understand when you are experiencing them when it’s time to pivot and say, well I know I don’t want that and give yourself permission to get clear on what it is you do want.

 

The key is to be constantly focused on what you want in a job.

 

But now let’s talk about your lesson.

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What do you need to get clear on?  What do you need to visualize as you pursue your next step?

 

Here are some questions to consider:

 

What type of hours do I want?

What type of people do I want to work with and for?

What type of freedom do I want with my job?

How much money do I want to make?

What do I love about my current job?

 

The more you understand what you want and get clear and focused on exactly that that is – visualize the outcome –  the faster it will come to you in your experience.  

I want to hear what your dream job is, hit reply and let me know.

 

I know you can have a great career and live a lifestyle of your dreams.

 

xo,

Christine Bove

PS- Are you ready for a Lifestyle Makeover? Click here and lets chat about how I can help you.

 

Sometimes that little black dress just doesn’t work!

 

How do you feel about your current wardrobe? Are you in a rut of wearing the same things over and over?  Do you refer to your clothing choices as your “uniform” because it is the same day to day?

 

I find that this is often the case with clients who are feeling stressed out or who are not happy about their current body weight.  They play it safe with an all black wardrobe or wearing the same pants and blouse style over and over.  This results from a feeling of unworthiness – why dress up?  No one will notice.

 

Well, that feeling over time can create exactly that belief – “nobody cares about me. I’m not important.” This belief blocks you from being your true self and expressing your desires and personal style.  You are attached to a false belief.  

 

Remember Melanie?  I have been sharing her story over the last two weeks (you can revisit part 1 here and part 2 here).  Melanie was making great progress with her mindset, beliefs and morning routine.  But as we continued our coaching sessions the 4th session (this tends to be a breakthrough session) revealed that Melanie had a deep desire to work for a well known luxury brand designer.  It took courage even to admit it but it was a huge leap forward as she had not admitted this to anyone, specifically that she wanted to obtain a VP position.  

Sometimes it’s a good thing not to share your deep desires as people can talk you out of it but there is also power in speaking it out.

So, we discussed the reasons why she wanted this position and how she would feel when she got it. The energy pouring through this call was powerful and I knew something awesome was about to happen and it did!

This designer would be at an event she planned on attending in 2 weeks and was planning a way to snag a few minutes of his time.  I said, great!  Let’s figure out what you will wear!

Melanie said, that’s no big deal I have this little black dress I always wear. Well as she said that her energy dropped and I thought, hmmm…this won’t work.  I said, “Melanie, you are going to an event with one of the top luxury brand designers with hopes of making connections for a high level executive opportunity and you want to wear the same old little black dress? Are you kidding me? How do you expect to stand out and be noticed?”  

Her response in a very soft voice was, “Oh, well I guess I don’t want to stand out.”  It was time to clear out the old resistant energy and replace it with the power of standing out in a new dress – a bold color dress!

So it was time to clear out the resistant energy flowing and discussed the power in a standing out with a new dress…a bold color dress. It wasn’t hard to talk her into an all day shopping spree with me at her favorite designer’s (and soon to be employer) 5th Avenue flagship store!

With all the excited energy, Melanie was able to create a fabulous head to toe look that made her feel powerful, confident, sexy and luxurious! In my next blog I will share what happened at the event.

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But now let’s talk about your lesson.

 

Are you wanting something bigger and greater in your life and hiding behind the same clothes that keep you blending in with the crowd?

 

As you get dressed each morning begin to ask yourself the following questions:

 

  1. Does this outfit uplift my energy? If you are taking time to meditate and get in a positive place you want to be sure your outfit supports that energy.
  2. Does it make me feel sexy, confident and affluent? If you want to earn more money or increase your position you need to dress the part.

 

Just two simple questions may bring some clarity to what’s holding you back.

 

What’s one item in your current wardrobe from color to accessories that you could upgrade in the next week to enhance your self confidence and get you closer to a new exciting opportunity in your life?

 

I want to hear what it is, hit reply and let me know.

 

You are what you wear, so why not be bold, sexy and affluent, you’re worth it!

 

I believe in you, so now it’s your turn!

 

xo,

Christine Bove

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