Did you know too many books can create writer’s block?

I’m seeing a theme in the past year with my clients. They are overwhelmed with their homes.  Just the thought of clearing clutter and organizing can stress them out. One particular area is with books, from their office to their bedside table books stack everywhere. What’s even more interesting is that about 30% of my clients who want to write a book have a clutter issue with books.

You may be surprised when I tell you that an overload of books can actually cause writer’s block!

In the book Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui, Karen Kingston explains that when you hold onto books it doesn’t allow you to create a space for new ideas and ways of thinking to come into your life. Your books symbolically represent your ideas and beliefs, and when you have too many of them sitting on bookshelves, you block your own creative ideas from flowing through you.

As I start to help my clients clear their book shelves I ask them, ”why are you holding onto these books?” They reply with things like,  “I need them, I like to refer back, I love their ideas,  I have to learn more.”

Here’s something I have learned even about myself is that we tend to think we don’t know enough! We always think we need to take another class, read another book or get another certification. The truth is you know more than enough, but you’re scared to trust yourself and the knowledge you have to share. So, you continue to buy book after book to fill this void.

And here’s what I see, the book never gets written, the new project never takes off, the career change never happens.  It’s time to recognize you are enough and start writing the book, start the business, or interview for the new career. You can take the first step by letting go of the books you have to affirm you have the information you need within you.

Let’s get started:

1) Start by selecting one area of your bookshelf, review the books.

  • Have you read it in a year?

  • Do you reference it frequently?

  • Do you have a friend or colleague who might enjoy this book?

  • Keep books that represent who you are today and who you will be in the future.

2) Create piles

  • Books you are keeping

  • Books you will read in the next 30 days

  • Books for donations

3) Donation ideas

  • Donate to Libraries. The library will sell them and the money goes to help fund the library. I do this with the Stamford library in Connecticut, they have a used bookstore in the library and I know the sales of the books help fund the library so I feel good about donating.

  • Pass along to friends, family or co-workers. When I worked in corporate America I actually created a section in our office called “Take a Book, Leave a Book”. Everyone loved the idea and since many commuted to work people would come from other departments and take a book. It also helps to learn more about each other.  You will be surprised what people like to read.

  • Donate children’s books to schools, daycares or after school programs.

  • Gather some friends and host a book sale.

  • Sell them on Amazon. I do caution this one, if you don’t have time or energy to do this ask yourself if it’s worth the money.

Letting these books go, also helps you to relieve the pressure and stress you are putting on yourself that you really need to know, this or that, or that you will somehow become more credible.

I follow this process myself and I will  share my favorite books, the ones I keep and don’t let out of my sight!

But let me first share a  picture of my bookcase that’s built into my hallway closet. As you can see I don’t have a lot of books as I borrow a lot from the library, but these are my favorite books and I have my current ones on my night stand.

My Favorite Books:

You can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay – A great reference for when you are sick or have pains and would like a deeper understanding.

Anatomy of the Spirit by Caroline Myss – I review this book to review the chakras when I feel out of balance in my life.

Animal Speak by Ted Andrews –  I reference this book whenever I encounter certain animals and feel they have a message for me.

Miracles Now by Gabrielle Bernstein – This was signed by Gabrielle herself, so it’s not going anywhere!

Course In Miracles

Plus, my Giada De Laurentis Cookbooks, Love her!

It may feel scary to let go of your books, but if you haven’t used them or read them in years pass them along to someone who could value them even more. Feel good that someone else is getting use out of them and you are letting go of the pressure to read them. I would like to highlight this, that buying more books is also putting more pressure on you and if you are already limited in free time, why are you creating more work for yourself.

Think about that and share your thoughts about your book collection below.

Stay tuned for Part 2: How to Organize your Bookcases with Style and Flow…

If you feel overwhelmed, book a Feng Shui consultation and let me help you clear the clutter and get organized. Click here to set up a complimentary 15 minute consultation to chat with me about your home. Once you fill out the application you will receive an email to schedule your complimentary session.

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How Do I Handle My Partner’s Clutter, It’s Driving Me Nuts!

It’s not easy when your partner is a clutter-bug and you are really neat. This is often one of my clients’ top complaints. I will walk around a home or receive pictures of their partner’s clutter. “You see…what am I suppose to do!” I definitely feel my client’s pain and frustration.  They want a beautiful home and a place to relax and enjoy their family but it can feel overwhelming with all that clutter!  Often I hear, “it’s not mine but I’m the one taking care it, If I don’t do it no one will.” The energy around those statements is heavy and negative. The more they talk about it the more I see and feel it draining their energy.  As I ask more questions I begin to learn that this negative energy is actually impacting my client’s relationship not just their space.

 

Every time we think about the clutter we create more resistance, the more we talk about it with others we create more resistance. You see, when we focus on the things we don’t want we actually create more of it. Once I explain this to my clients they begin to see how this focus negatively impacts their relationships. However, the response I get is “I just can’t ignore it!”  And I respond with , “Well it’s not working for you to focus on it, right?”

 

After a thoughtful pause, my clients usually think about it and by the end of the session try a new way of thinking about their situation.  It’s not really a new way of thinking, rather learning to understand the Law of Attraction. I was recently reading the book The Vortex by Esther and Jerry Hicks. On page 36 they give a great explanation on how when we focus on our partner’s clutter and junk we are operating from a personal place of imbalance, a place of frustration and anger, a feeling this will never get cleared and I am the only one to do something about it. These thoughts take us out of alignment, creating stress and negativity in our bodies and our home. When we operate in this negative mindset no matter how much action we take it will not resolve the issues.

 

In fact the worst thing you could do, is get fed up and dump all your partner’s stuff! You see, they have some emotional attachment to it, from fear or resistance there is some attachment to their clutter. Here’s where Feng Shui can help you get clear on the cause of the problem. If you haven’t read my previous blog “9 Reasons to Feng Shui Your Clutter” click here.  I go into depth about how clutter in certain areas of your home relates to different areas of your life.

 

I had a client who was trying to get pregnant, she had a beautiful home, but still struggled with clutter in her basement and attic. It was a combination of both their stuff, but it was mostly his and it was overwhelming to her. They had a lot of good quality stuff from their past and they didn’t know what to do with it. When I brought to her attention that the basement represents the past and the attic represents the future… The “aha” moment was made and the motivation started. We discussed how to release the guilt of letting go of items that had positive meaning in their life, but just no place in their home. Once she saw this, she realized how it was impacting their ability to start a family and her husband finally agreed it was time to let go of the stuff. I helped ease the process with an energetic space clearing that shifted the attachment to their stuff. Within weeks they were motivated to sell items online and the clutter was gone. Their basement became a playroom and new office for her to start working from home, the attic was turned into a nanny’s room. With all this letting go, she finally became pregnant!

 

“If you are focused upon problems – the Law of Attraction will bring problems to you faster than you can fix them. If you are focused upon a disorganized home – the Law of Attraction will bring more experiences of disorder, disruption, and problems you can keep up with.”

- From the book, The Vortex by Esther and Jerry Hicks

                            

So here’s what you need to do:

1) Stop focusing on the clutter. Stop thinking about it and talking about it with all your friends.

2) Find things in your space that you love – particular rooms, decor, accessories, etc. Focus your attention on these things. And yes, close the doors to the rooms with clutter.

3) Focus on what’s working and how to make things better.

Do you have a space that’s organized and beautiful? What worked to get that space organized. Did you have fun creating? Think what worked and find that energy to do it again.

Once your energy is off the clutter and your partner’s mistakes you may be surprised that he starts to clean up his stuff or admits to you why he is stuck on his stuff. It will shift the energy of your relationship and maybe make things better or help you finally make the decision to move on. Sometimes people just have to come to that place on their own. Plus, when the energy shifts to a more positive place in the home, they may become more energized to make a change with their stuff.

So, if you raise your energy they may just follow and soon the clutter will leave on its own.

Still not convinced…. just give it a try for the next 21 days and leave a comment below. I know you will see a difference.

If you feel overwhelmed, book a Feng Shui consultation and let me help you clear the clutter and get organized. Click here to set up a complimentary 15 minute consultation to chat with me about your home. Once you fill out the application you will receive an email to schedule your complimentary session.

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6 Organizing Tips You Can Learn from College Students

I’ve been receiving lots of calls from clients lately asking for help not just to manage their own clutter but  their spouse’s and children’s too.  Now is the time when all kids are heading back to school or off to college and everyone is trying to organize!  I have to admit, I love shopping for college students, or even for myself in the Bed Bath and Beyond college section.  You just never know what perfect thing you might find!

In my business, I am constantly shopping for clients and while I am out there I am always on the look out for organizational solutions for small living spaces, or spaces without closets or storage, that usually applies to most college dorm rooms. My expertise came from working at the Container Store years ago as they are the experts on organizing college dorm rooms. I’ve helped many college students and their parents learn how to spot what they need and what is just a waste of money.  However, while you are shopping, know that its okay to over purchase, to take it home, see how it all works together then simply return what you don’t need. I know your time is limited and you can feel overwhelmed, but let me guide you on how to organize a dorm room with good Feng Shui.

Sharing a room with a stranger is not the easiest thing to do, even the ones you marry.

You have different personalities, taste and organizational styles. Talking to your college student about how to embrace the differences with their roommates will actually prepare them for marriage!

So, let’s get started:

1) Take only the things you love and need.

Help your college student by making piles of things they love and need. Remind them that this is a time for a fresh start, so it is okay to leave all the stuff from friends and high school behind. Encourage them to review each item they are packing up, from decor to clothes. Have they used it in the last 3 months?  Do they love it?  Will they actually wear it?  Does it serve a purpose? Be clear that they don’t need to take everything right now as they will be back around the holidays.

2) Bunkbeds

You’ve heard me preach bunk beds are a no, no in feng shui. With limited space in dorms and many new styles with desks underneath the bed you may have no choice. If that is the case, go through your cosmetic bag or head to the craft store and pick up a small compact mirror. You will want to place this mirror under the mattress with the mirror facing down. This will repel any negative energy coming from the electronics underneath the bed or the energy of the person on the bottom bunk. Let me clarify, do not make this obvious or tell everyone what you are doing. Just explain to your child that this will help them sleep and not take on any negative energy underneath them.

A little extra organization on the side of your bed.

Bunk Bed Organization from the Container Store

3) Under the bed storage containers are a must

This is a the rare time I suggest getting underbed containers, but space is limited! So, if your student has space under their bed this is the best spot to keep extra towels, sheets or clothes as these items have no energy that will impact their sleep. Plus these boxes will benefit you down the road.

Long under the bed boxes are ideal as the pull out easily and open on both sides.

Under the Bed Storage Containers from the Container Store

Under the Bed Wooden Risers: a great way to create more space under the bed

Bed Risers from the Container Store

4) Closet essentials

With very little closet space, here are my favorite organizing tools that can work in any closet (even yours!).

Dublet Adjustable Closet Rod Expander by Umbra®from The Container Store is ideal for any small closet. The average closet space in a dorm is 3-5ft, with this double adjustable hanging rod you will create more room for clothes.

Doublet Adjustable Closet Rod from the Container Store

 

Little Black Dress Hanging Jewelry Organizer by Umbra®: Ideal for your Fashionista jewelry girl. This is great for the girl who loves to accessorize (note: I don’t recommend this for high-end jewelry for safety reasons).

Chrome Classico Accessory Hook: Ideal for organizing belts

Accessory Hook from the Container Store

5) Wall Decor

Most dorms don’t allow you to use nails, so the best tools are command hooks. Ideal for pictures, posters, coats and bag hooks… you name it command hooks are ideal for any dorm room.

Command Hooks from the Container Store

6) Bathroom Organization:

Flexible Shower Tote

Flex Shower Tote from the Container Store

Style Station Organizer: ideal for the gal  who uses multiple hair style tools.

Style Station from the Container Store

These are the basic essentials I recommend to most of my clients. Keep in my mind rooms are different and students have different organizing styles. This is a time for you to be flexible. The key is to remind them not to take everything with them, they will be home on the holidays and you will probably visit them for a parents weekend.

I’m sure you noticed some of these items may be helpful in your space too! So what’s your biggest struggle with clutter?  Or what is your favorite organization solution? Please leave a comment below.

If you feel overwhelmed, book a Feng Shui consultation and let me help you get organized and energized. Click here to set up a complimentary 15 minute consultation to chat with me about your home. Once you fill out the application you will receive an email to schedule your complimentary session.

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE ON YOUR WEBSITE OR FOR A GUEST BLOG POST?

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