What Does Success Mean To You?

What does success mean to you?

 

A powerful question that I don’t believe many people truly know the answer. 

 

Do you?

 

If you can’t really answer this for yourself, then you are probably living life based on other people’s definition.  This can feel like life is nothing more than a hamster wheel!  Life is about taking the right path for you but you need to experience life to figure out what it is you want. ,

 

In the end we all want to say we enjoyed the ride, but so often we are taking on other peoples beliefs of how the journey “should” unfold.

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My lesson today is to help you define what success means to you.

 

When you get clear on this answer, things will begin to change dramatically!

 

So today I want to help you go deeper and get the answer to this question and I want you to share your experience with me.

 

Success is different for everyone and so often people make the mistake of chasing after someone else’s dream. Maybe you feel achieving a certain level of success with your career will define you and that’s all you really desire. Maybe you desire to have it all – the career, sexy body, luxury lifestyle and family.

 

The key step is to define what success means for you and only you! It’s not the what your parents want or society but what you value, what feels right for you and allowing that to happen.

 

Gosh, I can’t tell you how many clients have financially successful careers and are miserable because they chose a career that was influenced by their parents or making the money. This leads to a belief that “money can’t buy happiness” which then leads to another belief,  “I can’t make money doing work I love.”

 

The outcome of these beliefs is an imbalance leaving you feeling frustrated.

What you are looking for is to feel good everyday! Feeling good at work, feeling good doing activities you love, feeling bliss in your relationship, the end goal is to feel good!

 

But what feels good to you?  The key is to experience life to determine your own definition of success.

 

You have to get out there and try new things, screw up and learn what you don’t want to create what you do want.

 

Let’s explore more by responding to some questions below.  Hit reply and answer just 3 simple questions and yes, I’m going to read your responses and respond back with some insights to what you share with me.

 

How cool is that?

 

There is no right or wrong answer just share what you feel.

 

  1. What activities make you feel good? (i.e. traveling the world, cooking fresh meals for my family, teaching, manicures, buying beautiful jewerly)

  2. In your current job, what aspect do you thrive in? (writing, building client relationships, planning events, organizing meetings, etc) 

  3. Based on your answers write out what you feel success means to you.

 

Don’t filter what you write by trying to figure out how this is all going to happen to you right now.

 

Be sure to hit reply with your answers as I’m going to read all of them and give you my insights.

 

I’m eagerly awaiting your responses!

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Do Affirmations Really Work?

In the beginning of my spiritual journey I was finding myself more frustrated about affirmation statements because I expected something to shift immediately!  No one really told me how to slow down and shift my energy first before I can accept the affirmation.  

 

Imagine your boss has just yelled at you for something that wasn’t your fault. You finally get back to your desk and emails are flowing in from your coworkers pointing fingers at each other. Whipping out an affirmation card and saying “I love my job” just isn’t going to work!

 

The reason is your energy is probably at a 2 or 3 vibration and an affirmation is more of an 8 or 10 vibration. You need to be ok with sitting with what happened and move yourself to a place where you can understand the why in the situation. You have to slow down and make incremental shifts.

 

Don’t beat yourself up, simply remind yourself that this situation is reflecting back negative energy.  And now that you can see it, it is a perfect time to clean it up! Especially, if you see a pattern developing.  It is very important that you take the time to reflect and clean it up!

 

Have a soothing conversation with yourself for a few minutes in a neutral place – the bathroom, go for a walk, get some water or a snack. Just take yourself out of the environment for 10-15 minutes and get some self care.

 

In this time try to be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself “what do I want?”  A boss who appreciates my work, coworkers who are easy to get along with, to feel appreciated for my work, or to hear my boss simply say “Thank You?”

 

Now that you’ve focused on what you want to happen, ask yourself what has to change within me to make that happen.

 

As you have these gentle talks with yourself, begin appreciating your gifts, your accomplishments and see yourself being treated better. Don’t expect your boss to give you a big raise, but if you begin to talk to yourself nicer, everyone around you will begin to shift and maybe the rude behavior will disappear.

 

When you’ve shifted your energy begin your affirmation statements like:

 

“I am awesome. I am beautiful. I am loveable. I rock.”

 

“I am always being guided to the exact people and experiences that will further my spiritual path.”

 

The key to affirmations is finding the words that you believe, sometimes it’s tweaking statements to work for you. Don’t be afraid to create your own mantras that empower you.

 

So here’s a little trick to help you with affirmations.

 

Find an image of an affirmation you love, below are some samples.

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Save the image to your phone and set the lock screen to your affirmation.

 

Now every time you open your phone take a few seconds to read the affirmation two times.

 

This will benefit you if you are constantly looking at your phone and will help you slow you down from all the overwhelming feelings from emails, texts, voicemails etc.

 

Do this for a couple of days and notice how your mind begins to shift. Affirmations work when you know how to use them at the right time.

 

So now share your favorite affirmations with me!

 

xo,

Christine Bove

 

P.S. You can have a career you love.  It is possible you just have to be willing to take the adventure to find it. If you are ready for that adventure let’s chat and see how I can help you find a career that’s rewarding and fulfilling. Click here to set your session.

You are your own worst enemy!

One hard lesson I’ve learned in my life is that I am my own worst enemy.  In fact, we all are. It’s not that we intentionally sabotage ourselves we just don’t realize we’re doing it. But through my life experiences I can look back and see clearly how overthinking my life has cost me in many ways.

 

My career has been a journey of twists and turns looking for a career that would feel rewarding, fulfilling and bring in good money.  I would begin dreaming of the possibilities and it would feel great until the negative voice would creep back inside my head and shatter my dreams. I would get caught up in why it couldn’t happen, my lack of experience, past experiences and a list of reasons why I wasn’t worthy.

 

In the past few weeks I’ve shared my client Melanie’s journey of making over her life and setting herself up to achieve her secret dream job.

 

We shifted her mindset by setting up a new morning routine, discussed how to begin telling a new story about her life and even worked on revamping her wardrobe to set her up for an event that could lead her to this new job.

 

Melanie’s progress has been great and she is improving every day. As we finalized her look for this big event that could help her land her dream job with her dream designer, she started hearing that negative self talk creep in.

 

I explained to Melanie that sometimes you have get out of your own way. In my own life I’ve used this simple mantra when I realized I was trying to control a particular outcome in my life.

 

I would find myself thinking about every circumstance possible and having a solution for every outcome. Big mistake!

 

The key is to visualize what you want clearly and steady with no wobbly energy. Meaning no doubts or buts. The moment you begin to feel like it’s not going to work or your vision starts to get a “no” response, stop. Let it go and think about something else.

 

Visualization works well when you are seeing it unfolding happily! The moment your mind brings up the past results you begin to sabotage!

 

So for Melanie, I told her to visualize the feeling of meeting and engaging with the individuals she hoped to work with.  See the conversation flowing with ease and laughter, but only stay there for a few minutes.

 

Melanie noticed how easy it was to get to that visualization and each time she added little things like a comment on her dress or a comment about how talented she was, little by little Melanie began to feel a new energy shifting inside of her and even noticed the feeling that something better than she expected was going to happen!

 

Looking beautiful and feeling confident Melanie had a amazing time at her event. She set the intention that she would connect with the two people who could best lead her to her dream job. She interacted with tons of great people but she knew the two best people turned out to be an old co-worker and a Marketing Assistant to the Creative Director. While she had a brief interaction with her favorite designer her greatest connection where these two gals.

 

She was able to connect and have a conversation without asking for a job. Through a friendly interaction she was able to learn about them beyond their work and what they loved to do. She saw connections in their activities and recommended some great resources to them.

 

She was building relationships with these ladies, by building these relationships she learned more about the company, the vibe of the staff, and more about the needs of the company. This information was powerful to Melanie as she could begin to see where she could fit into the company and the role that would best suit her and the company.  

 

So Melanie hit a homerun because she did the right work.  She set her mindset from where she is to where she wants to go. While we are still in the process of landing her this position, she is confident it is working out as it should.  

 

So let’s discuss why I wanted to share this story with you and how it can value your life.

 

Life is a journey to figure out what you want. It’s supposed to be fun but it’s not always the way we planned.

 

The contrast that we experience in life is to help us realize what we do want. So when you are on your career journey be appreciative of the jobs and experiences that aren’t so pretty and understand when you are experiencing them when it’s time to pivot and say, well I know I don’t want that and give yourself permission to get clear on what it is you do want.

 

The key is to be constantly focused on what you want in a job.

 

But now let’s talk about your lesson.

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What do you need to get clear on?  What do you need to visualize as you pursue your next step?

 

Here are some questions to consider:

 

What type of hours do I want?

What type of people do I want to work with and for?

What type of freedom do I want with my job?

How much money do I want to make?

What do I love about my current job?

 

The more you understand what you want and get clear and focused on exactly that that is – visualize the outcome –  the faster it will come to you in your experience.  

I want to hear what your dream job is, hit reply and let me know.

 

I know you can have a great career and live a lifestyle of your dreams.

 

xo,

Christine Bove

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